inching closer

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..and closer...this time next Wednesday I will be a single girl. Unmarried. Divorced.

When I received word that my divorce had been granted (on my terms) I was ecstatic, beside myself. It felt like a validation, someone believed me and agreed with my words and feelings.

And yet..the last couple of days have brought feelings of ambivalence and then some sadness, which is to be expected, but frankly I don't like it. It's too near the flat empty place I lived within for so long. I refuse to drown myself in such dampness and hopelessness.

After collecting my decree absolute, freshly stamped and with the ink of the Judge's signature still wet; I will be gathering with my friends. Those who helped me and encouraged me when I needed and when I didn't; those who sat quietly when I needed and who shouted at me when they believed I needed. Some of you are not able to be here in person, so I will raise my glass and think of you often.

I shall not dwell in sadness. I shall keep a torn corner of it and reflect upon it's making from time to time, with renewed perspective and lust for the adventures yet to happen...

I dwell in possibility....

Sara x

p.s. this will  be my final post in this place, as I feel it is now full and complete. I have moved to a new place, a new wide open blank canvas... waiting to be written.  You are welcome to join me.

Comments

  1. auntiegwen11:25 am, August 31, 2011

    Sending you the love, I genuinely never thought I'd ever have a truly happy day again when my marriage ended.

    I have had many truly happy days in the 5 years since we separated, many many happy days.

    I know you will too xxxx

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  2. Jephy's Mom12:13 pm, August 31, 2011

    Wishing you many, many happy days (as stated in the comment above). JM

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  3. Expat mum2:14 pm, August 31, 2011

    Good luck to you, you deserve it.

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  4. mermaid gallery2:33 pm, August 31, 2011

    there is so much out there in the world...just waiting for you!...possibilities galore!...go for it and make memories!

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  5. ethelmaepotter!4:31 pm, August 31, 2011

    One chapter ends and another begins. Both full of ups and downs, fears and thrills, love and heartache. Now the old chapter is behind you, and you keep the worthwhile memories. And the new chapter holds so much promise...

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  6. Saranne5:04 pm, August 31, 2011

    All the best to you...new chapters that we can write ourselves are the best! oxox

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  7. erin11:01 pm, August 31, 2011

    good for you, saz. good for you. hold into all that adventure and good.

    i look forward to the day too.

    xo
    erin

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  8. libby6:19 am, September 01, 2011

    Step into the next chapter with a smile....it is a new beginning...how exciting!

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  9. Sass12:18 pm, September 01, 2011

    Heck. I felt my heart miss a beat. I'm wishing you absolutely lovely times in the part of your life. Big kisses from sunny Kent!

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  10. Suldog4:47 pm, September 01, 2011

    Please let me know where you will be. I'll gladly visit!

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  11. BS5 Blogger11:32 am, September 04, 2011

    Hooray! X

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  12. Suburbia7:38 pm, September 05, 2011

    Good Luck in your new life.

    Sometimes I still feel sad and have what ifs, but then you have to remember what it was 'really' like.

    x

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  13. Scriptor Senex7:41 pm, September 10, 2011

    Sometimes it's been fun, sometimes sad but alwa interesting watching your progress from FFF to FFF to your new role. May the future be ever so bright.

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  14. JeannetteLS4:42 pm, September 14, 2011

    Been gone a long time... For all my ups and downs, I have been more MYSELF since my divorce than I ever was in my marriage. Free within myself as i never was as "the wife of" someone else. And it sounds as if that will be true for you. All the best in every bump, twist, turn, glide, and magnificent step in the next part of your journey.

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  15. Anonymous6:51 pm, October 15, 2011

    Very best wishes for the future, Jon

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  16. RNSANE4:06 am, November 01, 2011

    When people ask my marital status, I say I've been happily divorced for fifteen years. And I have. Congratulations to you!

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  17. Suldog1:13 pm, November 02, 2011

    Just checking in to see how you're doing. So, uh, how are you doing?

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