Sunday, 7 March 2010

Gin and the best tonic- friends

the last three days have passed in a blur.....friends, their husbands, my sons pal and my big girl have all helped me move and many have aided the transition over the last three weeks, more than they know.

Yesterday afternoon we emptied the car for the last time and returned the truck, whilst my lovely pal Lynn upacked some books and  bits and bobs making the living room alive. She also, very sensibly pressed me to find linens and make up the beds so we could fall into them much later. She was so helpful and she knows how l grateful l am to her and her husband.

In the evening, Jules and Carlotta arrived with gifts of flowers, wine, gin, lemons, chocolate and collected an Indian meal for us all. As l had only pecked at muffins all day, along with gallons of strong tea, the large gin l mixed went straight to my eyebrows and l lost all feeling in my face. It was quite wonderful.

I was very tired but was carried by the good humour of the girls,later my son and his pal made us tea and coffee before we went to bed after midnight.

I was dreading the day, the moving out bit, but it passed with ease and  looking back it was actually quite a good day. Very positive. I awoke this morning feeling refreshed and quite calm. Calm enough to dig out boxes, rummage and find my dongle thingy to connect to net, as the phone line will take up to 4 wks... thus this catch up.

A BIG thank you to you all for your support, advice and affection.





50 comments:

  1. Welcome home Sazzie, welcome home lovely tall boy. Been in my thoughts all this time-should have been there...I was in spirit.
    Breathe Annie.XXX

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  2. Glad the move went so well. I enjoyed your retelling of the day, and the next time we move, I'm taking your lead.
    XX

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  3. Yes, journeys begin with an act of will, will against all fears. You're on your way.

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  4. Welcome to your new home, I hope you will feel fantastic there!

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  5. I moved about three months ago and while the situation did/does stink, the opportunity to "doily up" a new abode is nice. Treat yourself well.

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  6. You have a great support team!!! This is absolutely imperative!
    ;^)
    Hang in...try to enjoy ALL that you possibly can!
    ;^)
    LOVE your NEW title!

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  7. I learned more about my friends in my divorce than I could ever have imagined. Good friends are such deep comfort.

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  8. very happy to hear the move went so well. what amazingly supportive friends you have.. kudos to them for holding you up when you needed it so!
    here's to much happiness & many blessings in your new nest!!!
    -Tracie

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  9. Dearest Saz,

    I'm taking a deep breath with you! And in my heart, I'm looking around at the brown boxes, thinking how wonderful they are...holding such promise for one of the strongest and most courageous and most beautiful ladies I know...YOU! Your new home will reflect all the elegance and artistry of you...and there will be happy memories created there...I pray NOTHING but happy memories there...I love you. So glad this horrendous move is behind you. Wish I were there to help you unpack. ~Janine XO

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  10. breathe , breathe .This bit has passed well and you are surviving ((((hugs))))

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  11. Glad the move went well and you are feeling positive. Wish I'd thought of gin when we moved! May you find happiness in your new home. WM x

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  12. there's an excellent theme here in your comments .. keep breathing .. it will all come together . xoxoxo

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  13. hi, and nice to meet you.

    i'm really happy for you that your first night in your new home was spent with good friends. i hope every morning you wake up, it gets better each day.

    go buy something crazy to instill yourself in your new home. something that you never would have brought home before.

    my 'something' was a zebra print area rug. lol. now everytime i vaccuum, it reminds me of my independance.

    good luck and much happiness.

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  14. That dongle word again; was laughing about who could have thought up such a word recently, on Twitter.

    Anyway, glad the move has gone well. Guess the unpacking starts now and rearranging fifty times.

    CJ xx

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  15. what a wonderful group of friends you have! so glad the day went well.

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  16. Welcome to your new home. It will become more dear to you as the time passes and you put your own personality in it.
    Very best wishes for the future in it.

    Nuts in May

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  17. And now begins a new adventure! Okay, that was overly peppy, but may your new home be merry, and the souls in it happy.

    I'm glad you have such good friends...and just think...there is something, something that you haven't done in a long time, something you gave up doing because it didn't suit your husband. He never wanted to ...whatever it might be...take a walk in the rain. Watch a drippy chick flick. Spend hours reading on a Sunday morning.

    Something. Some day soon you're going to find yourself doing that very thing...because you can. Because there isn't anyone to treat it as silly, or not worthwhile.

    I know it's got to be hard, right now all you can think about is what has changed, and what may be lost. Very soon, indeed, you're going to find out what you got back. You're going to recover the parts of you that you didn't even realize you missed, or had stored.

    An ending is also a beginning :-)

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  18. omygosh you guys are so great...

    l thank you for your good wishes and your lovely words....

    mum - as usual by my side

    Amy..you are so right

    Janine- thanks for visiting me here, thanks for your prayers....and support and love...xxx

    twirl- lovely to meet you also...l have bought something crazy..a vintage fur coat, which would not have been approved,l bought it when l found this apartment but have not yet collected it..my treat...one of many to come.

    Shimp- you made me tear up and l have been avoiding this, in case l couldnt stop..alls well. you have articulated much of my feeling the last few days..and it is a TRUTH for sure. There are many things l can now do, say sing, or dance without thought or a sense of 'shoulda, coulda, woulda!!!'

    many thanks

    saz xx

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  19. Hooray! Nothing but Hoorays!!

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  20. i'm so glad you were surrounded by such love an support in your moving process. helps the healing begin, i hope.

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  21. go hang your knickers on the lights and dance nekid in the kitchen
    its yours ...................lush xxx

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  22. Love the bit about the gin- made me grin. Good luck and all happiness to you XXX

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  23. So pleased it went smoothly and without a hitch. How wonderful you have such fantastic friends. Buying yourself something silly but special is a great idea. That's exactly what I did after leaving my husband. You have an excellent taste in gin, may I say. xx

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  24. Well done!
    You got booze, internet connection, a bed to sleep in, and ...

    A NEW LIFE!

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  25. Loved the poem from several entries ago. I have not been online much this past month, but I read your entries because I wanted to know what was happening. I am so glad you changed your title for the blog... Fly you will. And dance. And I hope we will get to witness it through what you share here. Clearly you are supported and loved there, as you have started over when you did not want to, with a great deal of grace, obviously. I wish you unexpected joys and pleasures, times of peace, and as little pain as is possible when so much of a mess is being dumped unbidden. And a whole lot of wisdom as you walk through it all. You are such a treasure to those of us who follow your blog... even from a distance. With love, Jetty

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  26. "The main thing in one's own private world is to try to laugh as much as you cry." Maya Angelou

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  27. Happy days are here I am sure. Funny about the gin. Looking forward to your new adventures.
    Ms. Fiddlesticks in Georgia

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  28. Welcome to you new beginning. Support is just wonderful. Remember to use it as needed. You're going to be just fine! :)

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  29. Thinking of you.take care of yourself. xxx

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  30. Hope it continues to go well :-)

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  31. I so wish you all the best of luck...it can't be easy, but you always seems such a positive person filled with energy and enthusiasm...

    NB

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  32. I've just caught up with your blog. I wish you tons of happiness, fun and freedom in your new home. Sending love xx

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  33. I did this 5 yrs ago. It can be done and you will survive and be happier for it. Keep your chin up, think positive. Remember, you are valued, you are important and you are loved. Make that your mantra.

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  34. Welcome Home! I hope you can take some time to relax, settle in and get cozy in your new place.

    Cheers,
    jj

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  35. You are obviously blessed with fantastic friends and family to help you through this difficult time. The gin and tonic was a great idea too! Good luck x

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  36. Gin, amazing tonic is it not?
    You have a great group of friends, I admit to being a bit envious.

    As my time of 'aloneness' got close, I started daydreaming about one person closets, less clutter, etc.. it was amazingly exciting in an icky time!
    best of luck..
    Laura

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  37. Gin, amazing tonic is it not?
    You have a great group of friends, I admit to being a bit envious.

    As my time of 'aloneness' got close, I started daydreaming about one person closets, less clutter, etc.. it was amazingly exciting in an icky time!
    best of luck..
    Laura

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  38. All over, all gone! A new beginning, exciting! (Muffins indeed, not heard that word used in fifty years!)

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  39. Just happened to try clicking through and found you're blogging again? Good! If you'd like me to link you up again on my sidebar, just drop me a line.

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  40. Best wishes for a successful journey. Usually when the guts are there to push you along, it goes very well. My best to you.

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  41. Saz,

    That is so great! Your first few steps to a new life. It sounds like all is off to a good start. I can only imagine your cozy place. It truly sounds wonderful.

    You have great friends and lots and lots of support. I am almost in tears of happiness for your. I went through mine very much alone. I am glad you had so much support. I wanted to be there myself for you!...LOL!

    Seriously, if I could give you a hug, I truly would....CONGRATS! :-D

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  42. Wishing the absolutely very best in your new home. You deserved that gin! :-)

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  43. More hugs and wishes to add to the line up. Am breathing a sigh of relief for you that the move went Ok and sending you positive vibes for better things to come! xxx

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  44. Good for you it all seems to have happened so fast. Glad you're OK though Lxx

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  45. I'm glad you had help and love through it all, Saz, and a good stiff drink, well that's just a bonus.

    xo
    erin

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  46. You are once again among such friends, my pet. Be warm, be safe, be strong, bee drunken... I've got a bottle of Bombay Sapphire with your name on it, for when I see you - I'm sorry it's taken so long, and so much water, and worry, has passed under your bridge since then...

    Love you, bless you, Fhi x

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  47. Well done you and how lovely to have such lovely supportive friends. Lx

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Thanks for stopping by!

Take the weight of your feet, draw up a chair and pour yourself a cuppa. Leave your troubles at the door and together we shall ride out the storms.
I will walk a while in your shoes...

Saz x